I should probably go to sleep…
I should probably-
just accept your fate…
Ah God, so true.
And then [Vimes] realized why he was thinking like this.
It was because he wanted there to be conspirators.
It was much better to imagine men in some smoky room somewhere, made mad and cynical by privilege and power, plotting over the brandy.
You had to cling to this sort of image, because if you didn’t then you might have to face the fact that bad things happened because ordinary people, the kind who brushed the dog and told their children bedtime stories, were capable of then going out and doing horrible things to other ordinary people.
It was so much easier to blame it on Them.
It was bleakly depressing to think that They were Us. If it was Them, then nothing was anyone’s fault. If it was Us, what did that make Me? After all, I’m one of Us. I must be. I’ve certainly never thought of myself as one of Them. No-one ever thinks of themselves as one of Them.
We’re always one of Us. It’s Them that do the bad things."
EVER has a right to touch you if you don’t want to be touched.
Not your husband. Not your fiance. Not your boyfriend. Not your partner. Not your friends. Not even your own family.
You are a person and your body is your own. And it’s a privilege if you allow someone to touch it.
A god damn privilege that can be snatched up and you don’t owe anyone a reason but that it’s your body and only YOUR body.
Having your story planned out
…but not being sure if you’re ready to start:
Legit need to know how to tell the difference between “my insecurity is telling me this person does not give a shit about me” and “this person actually does not give a shit about me.”
[AGGRESSIVELY DOESN’T MAKE ANY ATTEMPT AT INTERACTION BUT STILL WANTS TO BE YOUR FRIEND]
Fun fact! Trans and nonbinary people who choose not to go on hormones, get surgery, etc. are still totally valid! Nonbinary people who choose not to present as “androgynous” are still totally valid! Binary trans people who choose not to present traditionally feminine or masculine based on their gender are still totally valid!
Stop policing everyone’s identity. It isn’t difficult.
- Cop Apologists: Darren Wilson is just one cop! Other cops aren't Darren Wilson!
- Other Cops: *wearing "I Am Darren Wilson" bracelets*
I finally made an appointment with an assessment person and I’m terrified.
I know there’s something going on with me aside from what I already know. I know that. I think, I hope with everything I have, that I know it enough to keep standing with it even if they dismiss me and tell me there isn’t, and I know that I can go to other resources if this one doesn’t work out, and that thankfully I have support in that. But dammit, it’s terrifying, and dammit, I don’t want to argue with people, I don’t want to have to do the ‘try to find someone and make an appointment and hope’ all over again who knows how many times, I just want to know, I just want to have firm ground to stand on.